How to Find Stability in Life

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SUMMARY

Would you prefer to build your house on rock or sand? The wise man builds his house on rock while the foolish man builds his house on sand (Matthew 7:24-27).

In Matthew 7, Jesus told his followers that if we are to have a stable foundation, we must hear His words and act on them. Acts of goodness are emphasized over thoughts, making it clear that listening and believing are not good enough. The Word is worthless unless it’s converted into action.

It may seem too simple and good to be true, but Jesus tells us not to worry about our lives. I recently shared a blog post on How Not to Worry, using a message that Jesus repeats multiple times in his speeches (Matthew 6:25-27):

“Do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear… can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life?”

God knows that we need things like food, water, and shelter. But He is a good and will provide. Instead of focusing on these things, He asks that you shift your focus over to the “kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:33).


This shift in perspective is the basis for stability in our lives. Instead of asking, “Who is going to provide for me?” ask yourself, “Who can I provide for?” Where your focus is is where your heart is. God knows our hearts.

He also “knows what you need before you ask Him” (Matthew 6:8). So, don’t think about how you need this or that thing to be stable. Give yourself over to God’s higher plan for you and things will begin to unite and strengthen into a strong foundation.

How to Find Stability

Most of us want to be the builder of our own lives—the job we want, the boyfriend or girlfriend we want, the money we want—and then we want to unite that into a structure that we enjoy. The good life.

The sad part is that while we may be able to attain the materials we want, we are still lacking purpose, satisfaction, and fulfillment. How many of you know someone who is materially rich but spiritually poor?

God doesn’t just want to oversee the materials that we’ve already brought together for ourselves, He wants to gather the materials himself. He wants to be in charge of everything from A to Z.

Life gets much more stable when we allow God to be the builder of our life. If we don’t allow God to build our lives, we’re just running through it trial and error. We fall on our face, get back up; fall on our face, get back up.

Many of us are doing the same things over and over agin, the same destructive actions and thoughts and ideas, and we never learn. We keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. They call that “insanity.”

We’re the person who says, “You know what, let me build the house, let me build my own life.” And yet we don’t know what we’re doing. And God’s saying, “Look, I’ve done this so many times. Let me handle it.”

Here’s your challenge:

God wants to be the builder of your life. He’s not afraid of your sins or weaknesses. It’s in those places where His grace finds room to grow. Take a deep breath, open up, and allow Him that chance.

Because if God builds the house, he watches over it. And that’s the second thing—not only does life become stable, if God builds your life, He’s going to guard it as well. You can rest while God watches over your life. So you have stability and peace. And don’t we all want both of those?

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21).

Until we talk again, LIVE PASSIONATELY, GIVE GENEROUSLY, and IMPACT THE WORLD FOR GOD.

TRANSCRIPT

Hey this is Todd Phillips, your online pastor and personal life coach. We’re going to talk today about finding stability in life—how to find stability in life.

Because I think most of us, right, we wake up every day looking for stability, there’s no question about it. All of us are looking for balance and stability.

But it’s one of the biggest challenges. The people that I talk to, when I talk to my friends, family members, coworkers, when I’m praying with people on the phone, commenting on Facebook, or whatever it might be—this is one of the biggest challenges, just finding stability in life.

I want to go straight to a passage because I’m going to get down to the brass tacks today on this. If we want to find stability, it all has to do with our relationship with God.

Ok, so let me just read this passage, then I want to talk to you about a little bit of this. Psalm 127:1, this is a very short passage, but here it is:

Unless the Lord builds the house,
the builders labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the guards stand watch in vain.

As you’re thinking about that passage, you’re either coming from one of two places: you’re a Christ-follower or a Christian, you would call yourself a Christian, and you get the idea that God should be, even if he’s not, right, we go through different challenges, whether he is or isn’t on this given day, he should be in charge of our lives; he should be running the show; he should be building our house so to speak.

But then there are some of us, right, who are watching this, that have no idea if God really exists, and I just want to encourage you with this. Even though I know that god exists and I have a personal relationship with him and he’s transformed my life. I understand that you might be in a situation like I was twenty, twenty-two years ago, not knowing God. But I want you to hear this. If what I’m about to tell you is true, wouldn’t it be incredible to live this kind of life?

That’s just what I want you to be thinking if you’re just checking out the claims of Christ or the realities of the Bible, or if God exists—if what I’m saying is true, wouldn’t it be incredible to live this way?

So regardless of where you are coming from, I want you to hear this. Most of us, most of us, want to be our own builder. Most of us want to build our own lives. And let me explain it this way. I looked up a definition for “builder” and it’s simply this: a person that gathers materials together and unites them into a structure.

Ok, so when it comes to our lives, we want to gather our own materials together. We want the job we want, the boyfriend or girlfriend we want, the money we want, and then we want to unite that into a structure that we enjoy.

The problem that even as Christians, a lot of us tend to be the builder in our lives and we want God to be the general contractor.

And let me put it this way. We want to provide all of the materials, we want to provide the job as Christ-followers, the job that we want, the boyfriend or girlfriend that we want, the car that we want, the furniture, the house that we want, and then we want God to take all the stuff that we’ve brought together and put it into a really cool package.

Alright, here’s the deal. God wants to be the builder of our life and the Bible says to us that unless the Lord builds our house, unless he’s the builder of our life, we’re laboring in vain. We’re just doing it for no eternal reason. God is the one not only to be in charge of our life, but He’s the one that unites the products, the materials, that He brings together. He brings the materials together and then puts it into a structure. He’s supposed to be in charge of the whole show.

A lot of times, we’ll find ourselves for example in a really bad relationship. Maybe that’s where you find yourself in right now. Your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re in a bad relationship, it’s unhealthy in some way shape or form, maybe it’s even abusive. But you’re in that relationship. You know it’s not good, right?

And a lot of us have been in this situation. Maybe it’s just me, right, but instead of getting out of the relationship, our first four or five hundred prayers are “God, fix the relationship,” right? We don’t want to get out of it, because we’re in it even though its unhealthy. We ask God to fix it. In other words, “God, I found the materials in my life, this boyfriend or girlfriend, and I want you to fix the problem and unite it into a good structure,” when He may be saying to our hearts that this is not the right relationship.

I have someone else for you. I have a different circumstance for you. I have a healthier environment for you to be in but you have to get away from these materials and allow me, God says, “Allow me to bring the materials together, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your job, the money that you possess, all the things that are making up your life. I’m the one that needs to bring those materials together.”

See, God doesn’t just want to oversee our materials. He wants to gather the materials himself and then unite it into a structure. God doesn’t just want to oversee the materials that we’ve already brought together, He wants to gather the materials himself. He wants to be in charge of everything from A to Z.

And what happens when we allow God to be the builder of our life, number one life gets more stable. Everybody’s looking for stability. Listen, life gets more stable in the midst of our trials if we’ll allow God to build it. Listen to this in Matthew chapter 7 verses 24 through 27:

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”

Now, the reason I brought that passage up is this. We can hear these kinds of things all day long, that God needs to be building our lives, God needs to be bringing the materials in and uniting them into a structure that works for his plans and his purposes in our lives. We can listen to that but until we put it into practice, it’s in vain.

Ok, it doesn’t mean anything, it has no eternal consequence, it doesn’t allow us to move forward and be built up in our faith and lean into God Word, the relationship we have with God.

Matthew 7:24-27:

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”

This is so important to understand. We can listen to this, we can understand that God needs to be the builder, but until we take action toward that, nothing’s going to change. If we’re in an unhealthy relationship, until we take steps to get out of that relationship, and allow God to move us into the place that he wants us, nothing’s going to change. We’ve got to submit to God’s plans in all areas of our life, because the storms are coming. Let me be your spiritual weatherman for just a minute. There’s a 100% chance of a hurricane hitting your life.

I know that may sound depressing, but all of us in our hearts we know it. Many of us have already had many hurricanes hit before and we know more are coming. But if you’ve never had anything that’s so powerful, any storm so profound that it cracks your very foundation, those kinds of storms come in everyone’s life.

And until we understand that it’s only when God brings the materials together and unites it into a storm-handling structure, we can count on our house to fall. We’ve got to build our lives on the rock of Jesus. When you let Jesus build your life, when you allow God to come in and put the materials together and unite them into a structure, your house is able to withstand the storms, your life is able to withstand the challenges that hit it. Let me ask you a question: how many of us have ever built more than one life? None of us. We’re right in the middle of building the only life were ever going to get. But here’s the crazy thing. God has built millions of lives.

He’s never messed up on a single one of them. When it comes to God building lives, he’s batting a thousand. So why would we want to try to build our own lives, on our own, with our own experience and background, our own limited understanding, we only get one shot at this, why would we want to build our lives when god is offering to build our lives for us and He’s batting a thousand?

It just seems crazy, but many of us, myself included, take areas, if not all of our life, we’ll take areas of our life, we’ll just say, “You know what, I got this.” God’s going, “Why would you want to do that? I am the perfect creator. I knit you together in your mother’s womb. I have a purpose for your life and I have a perfect plan. I know how to build it better than you do. Just give it to me and see what grand life I build and what purposes I have for your life.”

And some of us still don’t take advantage of it. And then we’re stuck with trial and error, right? I mean if we don’t allow God to build our lives, we’re just running through it trial and error. We fall on our face, get back up, fall on our face, get back up.

Many of us are doing the same things over and over agin, the same destructive actions and thoughts and ideas and we never learn, we never get beyond them because we keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

You know that the term for that is “insanity.” And God knows exactly what needs to be done in our lives. Let me put it to you this way. If I came to you right now and said, “Listen, I want to build your house for you.” You were going to build a house in your neighborhood and I came to you and I said, “I’m going to build your house.”

What would be the first question you would ask me? I would guess it would be, “Todd, are you a builder? Have you ever built a house before?” And my answer would be “No, I’ve never built a house before, but I can do it for half the price of your other builders so you should use me.” Well, that would be nuts.

You would probably kindly send me on my way and you would go work with a guy that knows what he’s doing, right? I mean it doesn’t matter how nice I am, how much we get along, you’re still not going to let me build your house because I don’t have a clue what I’m doing.

That’s exactly the same way when it comes to our lives. But we’re the person that says, “You know what, let me build the house, let me build my own life.” And yet we don’t know what we’re doing. And God’s saying, “Look, I’ve done this so many times. Let me handle it.”

Because if God builds the house, he watches over it. And that’s the second thing—not only does life become stable, number two, if God builds your life, He’s going to guard it. You can rest while God watches over your life.

Listen, I tell people this all the time. It’s interesting. I know a lot of people that really worry when they fly. Just to give you an example of this. You know they get really stressed out on planes, they worry through the whole flight, especially at take-off and landing (one of my daughters is that way) and I got to be honest with you, ever since I gave my life to Christ at the age of 24, I’ve had a completely different perspective on this reality.

That God’s in charge of my life. He’s building my life and so he can guard it. Every time I get on a plane, or in a car, or go to a challenging environment around the world, whether it’s Liberia or Guinea, or Rwanda, or India, or wherever I might go, wherever God may take me for mission work and ministry activity, I simply don’t have any fear anymore. And I believe that’s a gift that God’s given me—just not to have fear, knowing He’s building my life.

And if He’s building my life, he’s in charge of it, he’ll watch over me, he loves me, he has a purpose for my life, and he’s protecting me for his purposes. I hope that encourages you. When God builds your life, He also watches over it. So you have stability and peace. And don’t we all want both of those?

Until we see each other next time, LIVE PASSIONATELYGIVE GENEROUSLY, and IMPACT THE WORLD FOR GOD.

[after video]

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